Enjoy the Ride: A Beginner's Guide to Anal Sex
36% of women and 44% of men have experimented with anal sex.
In fact, anal sex is starting to become so popular and de-stigmatized that from 2009 to 2015, data from PornHub showed that searches for the term rose 120%.
Over the last 30 years or so, couples have become more open about their anal sex habits. And whether they're gay or straight, people are starting to open up their back door for a little bit of naughty fun.
If you or your partner are interested in spicing things up in the bedroom, read our no-nonsense guide to anal sex. You'll be ready for an experience you won't forget in no time.
Guide to Anal Sex: Don't Get Shy About Talking It Out
Communication is key when it comes to being in a healthy sexual relationship. For many people, especially women, anal sex isn't something you just want to jump to. You also don't want to surprise a woman with anal sex.
Instead, you might want to discuss having anal sex before you try it. You can talk about both of your fears and discomfort with it, and what you're looking forward to doing. That way, anal sex will become something exciting, and not scary or taboo.
Introduce a Toy to Your Pleasure Chest
Many people are wary of anal sex because they've never had anything up their back passage, aside from their doctor. Nine times out of ten, that wasn't a fun or sexy experience.
People may feel a bit nervous about having anal sex because they aren't sure what it would feel like. They may be afraid it will cause discomfort or bleeding and may have even heard a few horror stories.
Buy an anal toy online and slowly introduce it into your or your partner's anus. Or, experiment on your own. Once the receiver of anal sex feels a bit more comfortable about the whole experience, it'll be much sexier.
If you can remember the days before you ever had a sexual experience, you were likely insanely curious but also a little nervous. Anal sex might feel the same way for an anal virgin, so you'll need to respect that.
Still, introducing a toy is a great way to experiment and bond as a couple. And it can be a fun way to enjoy a solo evening if your partner isn't home!
Use the Right Thick Lube
When you're going through the back door, you'll need to lube up. This is because the anus doesn't make as much natural lubricant as the vagina, so you'll want to make sure you're well oiled.
There are lubes specifically made for anal play that are thicker and has an element to help you or your partner relax. You can try one of those lubes out if you wish.
But in reality, you should go for a thicker lube. You can really never have too much of it, especially when doing anal.
Don't Turn Off Communication Once You Begin!
If it's one of your first times doing anal sex, you should definitely keep the lines of communication open. Let your partner know if and when it hurts. If you're uncomfortable or your partner isn't comfortable, then stop immediately. This isn't about suffering for another person's pleasure.
Rock Out with an Anal Orgasm
If you're giving anal sex, one way to make it more pleasurable for your partner is to stimulate their genitals while you're having anal sex. This works whether your partner is a man or a woman, and makes the whole experience a lot more fun.
Some people can orgasm from anal sex alone. Others might need a little help if you get our drift. But most people can get there if you play around enough. A toy, like a vibrator, might also do the trick if you're having anal sex with a woman.
Just the Tip?
When inserting a penis into the anal cavity, the head part hurts the most. This is due to the fact that the head is typically bigger than the rest of the penis. Once that's in and it's a little bit comfortable, the two of you can get into the rhythm of sex.
You or Your Partner Might Bleed: It's Totally Normal!
If you're receiving anal sex, don't be alarmed if you wipe afterwards and you notice some blood. This happens pretty often. You shouldn't get scared unless you notice that it's gushing or seems to be coming from somewhere other than around your anus.
Likewise, if you notice blood on the condom after having anal sex, it isn't normally a big deal.
Wrapping It Up
Not all couples use condoms, but if you're going back there, it's a good idea to put one on. This is because you're going up the anus. And let's be real, there's poop up there.
Your partner might clean him or herself out as much as possible by wiping or using a bidet prior to anal. But you can't neglect the fact that there might still be some leftover poo particles up there.
This is normal, so don't freak out.
But a condom keeps things sanitary.
Take the Condom Off If You Move to Vaginal or Oral Sex
If one of you isn't feeling anal and wants to go back to vaginal or oral sex, remove the condom you used. If the two of you use condoms for other sex acts, then get a fresh one. This is because there is likely some feces on your condom simply from going up your partner's butt hole.
Sticking it in her vagina or in someone's mouth can cause infections and serious illness. And, well, ew!
Explore New Pleasures with Anal Sex
Having anal sex can be a great way to bond as a couple and try new things. Or it can just be something the pair of you enjoy as a one night stand. Whatever you're comfortable with, make sure you're safe and hygienic.
We hope you enjoyed reading our guide to anal sex. If you're looking for some toys to kick-start the process, have a look at our anal play selection.